Know thy Audience

With so much on my mind I attempt to start writing this blog post today. Usually I like to have a theme or idea in mind when I write, but even then I tend to be so elusive as to the thoughts. My attempts from now on will be to complete a thought before I move on to the next one or end a post. The next goal will be to be able to share those thoughts in a reasonable length of reading material. It is made rather hard these days because of this set up. This thing that allows us to share thoughts and ideas with thousands across the world also limits us at the same time. It’s lovely that they have came up with more ways to give us ways to break through those limitations. I have tried in the past to set up and explain things before I start talking about what I wanted to talk about so that I would cut down on the chances I’d offend someone or someone would take what I was saying out of context. Well, hello, no matter what I did or how explained it someone is going to take out of context what I am saying.

By the time I get done explaining I don’t feel like talking about my theories, my thoughts, what I wanted to write. It’s a buzz kill really. To worry so much about being taken out of context. I wrote a short two part piece the other week. Just to have a chance to spread my wings and express what I’m thinking and what not. It was a rather lovely piece of writing. Not complete but a good start and well thought out. But the people who read it did not read what was there or comment about what was there. Instead they read parts of what was there and put their own feelings and thoughts towards what they thought I was saying. Instead of reading what I was saying for what it was: my point of view on one subject. It went as far as some telling me I shouldn’t share my point of view because it will hurt the kink community.

It gets me thinking about different questions. Should I change my opinions and thoughts to protect the community I’m part of? Why? Am I not part of the community and shouldn’t I enjoy thinking for myself? Are my ideas as valid as everyone else’s in the community?


Great, I had a lovely ending to my Blog post and my computer just crapped out on me. I want to beat my head off the coffee table. I want to hurry up and enjoy a short walk while I enjoy this feeling of relief. I did come to a unblock age of something that has been bothering me. What it comes down to is I do take the time to consider who is going to be my audience. When people who are in my target audience take what I am saying so far out of context it bothers to an extent. I spent the time to consider what I wanted to say and who I wanted to say it to, they discount that and answer from a view that is not even at their own education level. My friend summed it up best:

“You weren’t writing for the ‘nilla crowd, you were a scene person talking to scene people and what you wrote should have been accepted in that context.”~Kuve~

Have a lovely day, I’m going out for a short walk and enjoy some fresh air.

~Raven~